OPEN LETTER: TO THE PARENTS - STRESS TO STRENGTH - PART 1

STRESS TO STRENGTH - PART 1

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Mom Harsha Says

Parents are very excited when 
The new academic term of their children going to kindergarten is announced.
The schools load the parents and children with books and syllabus.


We are very desperate to go through each and every page minutely of the books and syllabus of our children before the child even starts going to school.

 We start stressing ourselves about academics. 
Every parent expects  the child to excel in the class but here,
 I, want parents to very clearly understand that, we have to keep academics pressure, simple & age appropriate...

Understand that every child is different and Every Flower blossoms at its own time.

Age is an important factor and we cannot and should not manipulate it.
Many parents want to start schooling very early, even before the child fits in the age criteria set up by the govt or the school authorities..

Why are we in a Hurry???

If the child is younger, say for eg, 3 months younger to the age criteria, 
We feel 3 months young child in a class will not make a difference, it's just 3 months, but I would say it's 3 months, it's 90 days.

Let me just put an example,
A child who is born just today and a child who is of 90 days, are they the same ??

The answer to this question is the crux of the entire debate, it's just 3 months, or it's 3 long months...90 days...... X hours and X minutes.....
Every minute is important in the foundational years

Most of the time parents tangle themselves in the RAT RACE & completely forget that children are individuals and not each and every child will act or react the same to the pressures put upon them...

Every Child is Different.....

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The syllabus of any standard is a general setup. 
Children are different and they perform differently. Only completing the syllabus or getting an A+ cannot decide the future. We need to understand what to expect from our children. Sometimes our own expectation leads us to a miserable situation. 
Efforts can be expected not perfection. 
The syllabus given by the school is not a benchmark because, nowadays the schools have loaded the children with heavy academic pressure.  

The curriculum in most schools is too much heavy for a child. And if the children are underage, think of the disaster that happens to the child's lifelong learning.

We, as parents have to play an important role rather than just pushing a child to get admitted to school early and complete the syllabus.
As Parents,
we should calm down and think and tailor stitch the syllabus according to our child’s age, capabilities, and interests.

In this academic pressure and RAT RACE, we completely forget the child.
In fact our aim should be to help the child develop love towards studies, instead we pressure the our children and not only stress them but we stress ourselves.

  We steal their playtime and offer them tuition from a very early age so that the child can match up to the class. This is really saddening.

Children actually learn so much from Play, but we feel - Play is a waste of Time - REALLY ???????

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 We are in a race where our child should know everything as soon as school starts, we don’t even think that is the child’s fine motor, the sensorial is developed?

We are not ready to wait, we fear that the waiting period will lack behind my child in class or among his peers. 
My dear parents, this thought process really needs to go through a change. 
We need to redefine our definition of Stress.

 We have to understand that  everything has its own growing period and that period should be given, if we don’t give that time it will somewhere hamper growth. 

The best example here I can give is, if a mom-to-be thinks that oh 9 months is a long to deliver, I don’t want to wait and want the baby in 4 months, just pause and think about what I am trying to underline. 

Now let’s take this deep and think. 

The baby which needs 9 months to come out of the womb comes out in 4 months, do you think the baby's birth is normal….. You are smart to know the consequences of this episode, just connect this episode to what we do with the kids of nursery and kindergarten...

Mom Harsha Says: 

CALM YOURSELF FIRST  
LEARN TO WAIT, 
DON’T RUN
BECAUSE ALL ARE RUNNING…


Tips to keep our minds and kids happy :

  1. If the kids are imperfect that’s ok.
  2. Schedule daily relaxing activities for us and the kids.
  3. Understand that kids learn in different ways.
  4. Try to see the positive in kids.
  5. Avoid negative and use positive statements.
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